Setting Healthy Boundaries as a CEO

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You have a big vision, goals and priorities but the only way you are going to accomplish them all is to create strong boundaries. 

No doubt you are very familiar with boundaries, both yours and others, but how often do you let your boundaries slide because…

  1. you are concerned how someone might feel if you don’t do X for them right now
     
  2. you are worried that if you don’t complete or work on X project or task right now, you will have to confront your board members about how the project is still not complete at the upcoming board meeting
     
  3. you are simply tired of saying NO all of the time
     
  4. you have massive decision fatigue. You have nothing left. No neurons left in your brain to make any sort of decision, not to mention stick to your boundaries, so you just deal with the crises as they come up and let those consume your days (because there are so many of them!)
     
  5. you have so much on your plate at all times, and no matter how many boundaries you have, you will inevitably disappoint someone (especially yourself because you are an optimist, driven and have extremely high expectations on yourself)

Do any of these sound familiar?

If so, you are probably struggling to stick to your boundaries which means you are having a rough time actually getting the things that are most impactful for you and your business accomplished. So, how do you actually set strong boundaries, stick to them and find time for yourself? It seems an impossible task for any CEO, but I promise that you can accomplish more with less.

If you want to learn how, join my Rock Your Leadership FREE 5-Day Challenge. We started this week, but there's still time to join! We will be talking all about how to get one more hour out of your day to accomplish more (for you and for your business) by setting healthy boundaries that you can actually stick to.

If you’re ready to truly thrive in your role as CEO, I invite you to join the Rock Your Leadership Challenge.

Hayley Collins

is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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The Truth About Goal Setting

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We all know that goals are important.

We are told our whole lives that if we want to be successful in life we must have these nebulous things called goals. We must create them, set them and accomplish them. This is our mission if we are type-A, driven and yearn for success in our lives. 

We learn the basic construction of a goal in school and we noticed how much praise we get if we accomplish our goals (or goals set forth for us by others that we want to please such as parents, teachers, etc.). So, we set more goals and set out to accomplish them. We get more praise. Now, the positive feedback loop is set. We will be goal-setters for much of our lives because we have found that there is positive rewards and success that come for those that accomplish their goals, but, wait a second….

Aren’t we missing something? Are we just hamsters on the goal-setting and achieving wheel? 

The goal setting complex has invaded every part of our life - self-care, marriage, spirituality, friendships, exercise, school and, most definitely, our work lives. But, I am betting that you are like me. While goal setting and accomplishing feels addicting because you love checking off those small goals on your to-do list, you realize that your to-do list is never ending which leaves you frustrated, trying to work faster, and ultimately, totally exhausted without the sense of real accomplishment that you were hoping for. 

As a CEO, goals are imperative to our success. We must set goals and accomplish them as our performance is measured by them.

Okay. We can accept that. We knew that getting into this position. 

But, how are we actually supposed to accomplish the zillions of goals we have each day, each week, each month, each year...not to mention our vision for our lives?! 

There are too many goals to accomplish and not enough hours in the day. And, yes, we know that Obama and Beyonce have the same 24 hours in a day, but they have staff...lots and lots of staff to help them get everything accomplished...and probably loads more money than we do at this point, so...not sure if they are comparable. But, aren’t they?!

What if I told you that by simply making a few minor adjustments to your goal setting strategy, you could actually gain time in your day?

What if I told you that we learned to set goals all wrong, especially as women?

What if I told you that we need to honor our feminine need for ebbing and flowing, just like our bodies remind us each month, in our goal creation?

What if I told you that you could actually get more of the important stuff done and have more time for doing the activities that nourish you? 

Well, you can have those things. 

Goal setting and actually accomplishing those goals. Knowledge that you actually accomplished your main goals. More ease around accomplishing your goals. Time with your family, friends and for yourself. 

Yes, this really IS all possible. 

Are you ready to learn how, so you can change your life? Then join my free Rock Your Leadership 5-Day Challenge happening this week. I’m going to show you exactly how to accomplish everything you’ve been dreaming about.

If you’re ready to truly thrive in your role as CEO, I invite you to join the Rock Your Leadership Challenge.

Hayley Collins

is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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The Importance of Acceptance and Letting Go In Leadership

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I know you. You’re a Type-A Control Freak who owns that title. It’s what made you stand out when you first started at the company. It’s what made others recognize your potential and say “she’s going places”. It’s what helped you to climb the ladder and what got you the job of CEO.

It’s that persistence.
That control.
That never letting go.
That drive of competition.
That not accepting until it’s done.

When you’re a leader, you’re constantly being bombarded with different things that are vying for your attention. It may seem that people love tossing things at you, and your to do list is five hundred pages long. Before you check off five items, you seem to have added twenty more. Paired with the constant stream of emails, phone calls, and meetings, you can physically feel your energy being drained and pulling into multiple directions.

You’re left thinking, “How am I ever going to get ahead?

The key is this: Acceptance and Letting Go


ACCEPTANCE

Accept that you will always have a running to do list if you are an effective CEO. Our culture tends to view long to do lists in a negative light, but this is actually a sign that you are thinking about the problems that your organization faces and working to find solutions. As long as the tasks are aligned with the vision you have for the company, and you are prioritizing these tasks correctly, there is no reason to fear the to do list. Accept that it is a tool that will help you accomplish the vision for your organization.


LETTING GO

Just as you must be willing to accept certain aspects of your role as a CEO, you must also be willing to let things go. If you’ve taken my Leadership Style Quiz, you know there are certain strengths and weaknesses that are at play within your leadership style that may be helping (and hurting) your success. If you’re a Taskmaster, you get a rush from checking off each item on your to do list and are addicted to the feeling of accomplishment that comes from each check mark. Letting go of that addiction and need for instant gratification is hard, but the spaciousness within your schedule and mind will allow you to be more creative with your problem solving and more fully thrive in your role as CEO.


This FREE 5-day challenge will help you to:

  • squeeze an extra hour out of each day by implementing boundaries with your team, family, and board
     
  • craft your priorities so that you make time for YOU and the things YOU LOVE
     
  • identify exactly what it is that is holding you back and causing your overwhelm
If you’re ready to truly thrive in your role as CEO, I invite you to join the Rock Your Leadership Challenge.

Hayley Collins

is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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Expansion vs. Contraction

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If you frequent a lot of the online entrepreneurial circles, you’ve likely heard talk about “expansion” and “contraction”.

Expansion

What is Expansion?

When it comes from this place of spaciousness, you feel a sense of being grounded and centered, and things feel right. People often say it feels like the decision comes from your gut, some people say that God helped them make the decision, and others thank The Universe.

It feels good - your energy and everything about you is feeling good and in alignment. As a leader, this means that you are happier, making wiser decisions, and coming from a place that is authentic to you.

When you feel this, you know you are on the right path.

Contraction

When you go into Contraction mode, you can physically feel it. You can feel your body go inward.

You feel like you’re contracting because you should or because you have to.

Don’t get me wrong: as a leader (and as a human in general), there are some decisions we just have to make whether we like it or not. There are things that will make us shrink, or make us feel uncomfortable.

But it’s important to take note of that feeling. What it’s like physically, and how that decision unfolds to us personally.

Does it feel authentic and genuine?

Take note of how much you can tap into your creativity when you follow that feeling of expansion. See how expansion and flow is often associated with the feminine energy.

Notice when you’re making decisions and all these feelings of fear, pressure, and panic start to arise.

Notice how they affect you as a person, and as a leader of your team.

Remember that you are a whole person...you just happen to be a leader as well.

I encourage you to think about this as you go through your day - are you expanding or contracting?

P.S. If you haven’t already, I’d love to have you as a part of our fierce sisterhood, The Millennial CEO Society. It’s a private Facebook community where you can finally receive the support you’ve longed for. Join us today.

Hayley Collins

is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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How to Shift From Being the CEO at Work to NOT Being the CEO at Home

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In this video, I talk about how to shift from being the CEO at work to NOT being the CEO at home. It can be very difficult to switch hats when you leave the office, but it's important for a healthy work/life balance. This video was originally live-streamed into my free community, the Millennial CEO Society, and we'd love to have you join us over there for more videos like this one!

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is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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The One Skill You Should Be Using Most in Your First 3 Months as a CEO

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So, you just landed the top job and now you have to figure out what exactly you need to be doing in this job. There is no handbook, no supervisor guiding the way, no clear path that is laid before you and yet somehow you are supposed to know what to do and how to actually move the company forward ensuring its success.

Can you say overwhelm?!

Your board, staff, donors, investors, community members and the media are all asking you what your vision is the for organization. They are hungry to find out the direction you will be taking the company and how you will get there. While you may have worked in the company previously and risen up to the CEO role, most likely, you are an outside hire. Your skillset and resume proved to be the best out of all of the candidates to fill the role of CEO. However, the problem is that you barely know anything about the company not to mention how to fix it, make it successful and wrapping that all up in one grand vision! So what are you supposed to say when people ask the question, “What’s your vision for the company now that you are on board?” 

And what exactly are you supposed to fill your days doing?

How do you know what the priorities are and what is best for you to do vs. your team?

Doing vs. Being

In your first 3 months as CEO, you need to resist the urge of ‘doing’ and step into the art of ‘being’. Let me explain.

Everyone will want you to pick up the pieces of your predecessor. Your staff will approach you with questions, projects and big ideas that your predecessor didn’t consider and now, since you are on board, there is a chance that you will hear them out and want to proceed with your staff’s big idea or project.

Your board members will be skeptical. Nice, but skeptical. They will be welcoming but unsure of how to proceed with you. And, most importantly, they will be worried about how you will truly handle the enormity of your role.

The donors, investors and community will anxiously wait in the wings to hear word of how you will make the company more successful. And, they assume whatever you propose will be great because of your experience and your new and outside perspective on the company.

The pressure of it all will begin to set in.

You are worried that you don’t have what it takes to be successful at your new job because you have no idea where to start with creating a big company vision that is realistic and inspirational. Let me stop you there. You do have what it takes. I promise. 

Listen to Your Team

Whenever you think you don’t know the answers to any problem here is the easiest most simple and yet profoundly effective solution. Ask others. You actually don’t have to know it all!

Say what?! Yes, I am telling you that if you ask others about what they think the solution to the problem you are facing may be, you will learn a lot about your company and the solution will have been provided to you. The best part is that when you talk to people, ask their opinions and truly listen, you are building trust, rapport and respect, which is critical to building effective relationships. (And, you already know that relationships are key to success in any organization, and this is how you start that process).

So, stop the overwhelm before it starts. Take a deep breath and remember that you don’t have to know everything. The best leaders know that about themselves, admit it and very openly and honestly ask for advice, input and feedback all of the time. Your staff, board, donors, investors and community know a lot more about the company then you do at this point, so ask them what they think the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats are to the company. Ask them what their ideal vision is for the company. Once you get all of this information, you compile it, tweak it and create one vision for the organization. This will do wonders for your reputation. People will feel heard. That is your role.

Stop talking and start LISTENING!!! You will be a better leader for it.

P.S. If you haven’t already, I’d love to have you as a part of our fierce sisterhood, The Millennial CEO Society. It’s a private Facebook community where you can finally receive the support you’ve longed for. Join us today.

Hayley Collins

is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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What Every Female Needs to Do Right Now If She Wants to Succeed

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Landing the CEO role is a success all on it’s own… but I gather now you’re ready to BE a success AS a CEO.

But there’s one key thing that’s standing in your way.

Lack of confidence.

People look up to you! You’re in a position of power. A position you’ve worked your @ss off to get. So why aren’t you standing in your power, the way you were meant to?

If you want to move forward in a powerful and authentic way, I have a tip for you:

Stop doubting yourself.

Listen, imposter syndrome is REAL and it’s something both I and my clients have struggled with. But it doesn’t get to define you! You didn’t make it this far on luck. You’ve made it here because this is your place in the world. And you have everything you need to be successful, within you!

When you first learned to swim, I bet you were really scared about getting into the water… But once you jumped in and started learning you realized, hey, I can do this. I’m supported and I’m safe.

There was still fear...

But you didn’t give up. You kept learning, you kept going back to your lessons until one day you did it! You swam all on your own! Because you believed in yourself. And today, it’s time to believe in yourself again.

So stand in your power, put your shoulders back and show the world what you have to offer, Sister.

P.S. If you haven’t already, I’d love to have you as a part of our fierce sisterhood, The Millennial CEO Society. It’s a private Facebook community where you can finally receive the support you’ve longed for. Join us today.

Hayley Collins

is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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How to Organize Your Day for Maximum Productivity

There’s no way around it… you have to be organized if you want to remain productive. Especially as a CEO! There are so many things on your proverbial plate, so you have to be cognizant of how you organize your day. Below are 3 steps you can take towards become a more efficient, less stressed, CEO badass!

Step 1 - Write down your top three priorities.
 

Most people can only maintain about three mental objects at a given time, and you need to know when you start the day which items must get completed that day. Hopefully, you will complete more than this, but you are likely to spend some of the day putting out fires, and also convincing your team members which issues are not in fact emergencies, so that they can be dealt with through normal processes.

At the end of the day, check in with yourself.

Did you complete all three? If not, what can you do to make time for these top priorities the next day? If you did, you should feel great. Leadership can feel like a vast, never-ending landscape of needs and responsibility, but breaking down your priorities into smaller pieces helps you make progress where it is most urgent while you build confidence.

 

Step 2 - Create boundaries for your space and time.
 

Open office hours and walk-in privileges can help foster open communication, but remember to keep this in moderation. This will help you to make time for self-care and for your identified priorities. Defining closed-door periods when direct reports and others may not walk in with questions or greetings, while switching off phone and desktop alerts, helps create the mental space you need to stay on top of your work and your mental health.

Boundaries are just as important, and perhaps more so, for your supervisor(s) or your board of directors. Many of these folks can think of interesting and useful tasks, but if they are buying in, they need to help with the workload. At the start of any new role, it is critical to be firm and respectful of your boundaries. While you can and should adjust these boundaries over time, your resentment might build quickly, and the expectations others have for you will calcify quickly.

Step 3 - Step away from your work periodically.
 

Go on a 15 minute walk, chat with a colleague, have a snack, go get a coffee or tea, meditate, stretch, or write down the things that you are grateful for today. You would never go to the gym and workout for 4 hours, munch on an energy bar through a mid-day yoga course (heard of the working lunch?), and then go back to the weights for another 4 hours. Your left brain needs a break to operate in top form, so turn it off and try a non-intellectual activity when you have time throughout the day.

Figure out how you want to feel each day and take a cue from Danielle Laporte. Your actions will follow your feelings. Your feelings will follow your actions.

Priorities, boundaries and routine self care will lead to a happier, healthier YOU!

Do you have a favorite productivity tip to share? Leave a comment below and let us know!

Hayley Collins

is a coach, consultant, and CEO who helps millennial women step into the CEO role of any organization with strategy, skill, and unstoppable self-confidence. She works with her female clients in 1x1 sessions, group programs, and The Millennial CEO Bootcamp™—to seriously shortcut their learning curve and ramp up their leadership skills!

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